Lloyd Dobler: Don't worry about it. We're just having coffee. We'll be anti-social.
Diane Court: Be friends?
Lloyd Dobler: Yeah. With potential.
Dear Single Female Readers:
Find a man. Not a boy, not a guy, and definitely not a dude. A man. A man who puts effort into you. A man who wants to show you off to the world and let everyone know how lucky he is to have you. A man who you never have to make excuses for. A man who will still think you are beautiful, sick, healthy, or during that time in the morning you are making your coffee and your hair is stuck to the side of your head. A man who puts his arm around you; who holds your hand. A man who is completely understanding and one who can be your best friend. A man who owns up to his mistakes, because admitting your mistakes is the sexiest thing in the universe. A man who will knock on your door at 2 am, just because he wanted to see you. A man who will do anything to have you.
Just because we are sick, or that we feel like damaged goods, or maybe because we don’t feel good enough, does not mean we should settle. All of these guys, these boys, are just a practice run. We learn from our mistakes, we challenge ourselves, and we learn so we’re the best package of a woman we can be for when the right one comes. Work on yourselves, better yourselves as a human being to have a healthy relationship. Yes, timing is everything, but so is your state of mind. If you think you’re damaged goods -- you are damaged goods. You will be that sick girl, undeserving of something healthy and awesome.
Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. Don't search for a man that will solve all your problems, he won't. Find one that won't let you face them alone. If he misses you, he'll call. If he cares, he'll show it. If not, he can't be worth your time because you're obviously not worth his. And please, don't base your relationship decisions off of the advice of people who don't have to live with the results (I have broken this way too many times!)
Love,
Natalie
ps: My birthday is 3 weeks away! Trying to plan a night with someone down Atlantic City.
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